I’ve always been super interested in self-help books and how-to articles. I loved reading magazines because I thought they would teach me how to be an adult out in the world. When I would watch Oprah after school, I wanted to be her so badly.
I wanted to help and inspire people all over the world.
I remember when I was browsing in Barnes and Noble, around 17 or 18 years old, I picked up “The Book of Secrets” by Deepak Chopra. Why? Well because it had a butterfly on the cover, duh! Also, the title was enticing. I had no idea who Deepak was. I stood there in the aisle and read the first chapter, (what I do to make sure I really want to buy a book) and I was hooked. The book was full of concepts I could not truly grasp at the time, however, it simply taught me about awareness. Being aware of everything around you and everything inside you.
Awareness is healing in and of itself.
That book really led me down a path of self-development and learning that has brought me to where I am today. Lots of ups and downs, lots of winding roads, and lots of growth. From family relationships, sexual violation, dance life, weight problems, romantic relationships and dating, money problems, and career issues, I’ve been through a ton of life in my years. I have not only survived but I have finally come to a place where I can say that I’m thriving. I don’t think I would have had I not been so self-aware at times. Believe me, there were many times I went unconscious to avoid my feelings and responsibility for those feelings. But I would eventually come to a place where I was seeing how I created the drama and wanted to end that specific chapter of my life. You know when you finally get to that point where you say okay, I’m no longer dating that type of guy anymore or I’m no longer going to work for that type of manager or I’m no longer blaming my parents? Those deliberate decisions signify course corrections on your path.
Another major influence in my awareness and development was when I learned about the Law of Attraction through the now famous “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne. I thought this was huge stuff. And I was right. What so many of us did not realize was that you can’t sit around all day and say affirmations to yourself, create vision boards, or try to turn all thoughts into positive ones and then you magically become a millionaire. The action piece of it was left out of a lot of Law of Attraction teaching. But still, I knew in the back of my mind that this thing was how the world works. I saw how I attracted stuff into my life, and the same for what I observed in other people’s lives.
Now, I have discovered Master Life Coach and Instructor, Brooke Castillo, and her “thought model” that really has pieced all that I’ve learned so far into something I can really wrap my mind around. There’s so much more I can write about her philosophies and teachings but they will have to wait for more blog posts.
For now, it works like this: circumstances trigger thoughts, thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions and your actions produce results.
We can’t control circumstances in the world. The cool thing is you get to choose what you put in the thought line and decide how to feel, which means you’re not out of control of your actions and results. Your experience of life is yours for the creating.
So there’s really not any problem you can’t solve with this model. Pretty damn awesome.
Brooke has taught me so much from her free podcast alone but the advanced program I’m in, Self-Coaching Scholars, has changed my life completely in the last year. I’ve healed relationships, let go of other relationships, managed anxiety and depression, stopped over-drinking, stopped overeating, and I’m no longer afraid of my feelings. They’re simply vibrations in my body. That doesn’t mean I’m no longer human without emotions. I will still feel negative emotion about half of my life. I’m okay with that. I just don’t want to create any additional suffering on top of that.
So if there’s no longer anything to hold me back, what can I go create? That’s the work I’m in. If I take away everything that’s no longer serving me, what am I free to do and who am I free to be? If I choose to continue on this path of self-discovery and growth, what new frontiers will I reach?
No one can replace the queen herself, Oprah Winfrey, but perhaps I can inspire people all over the world in my own way. Let’s see!
Thanks for reading!!! I love to hear back from readers. What do you think about this topic? Have you had similar experiences? What helped you the most? Please comment below!
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