The stuff people don’t like to post on social media…

Being pregnant with a flood of hormones has been rough for me mentally/emotionally. I don’t have a ton of physical symptoms like terrible nausea or vomiting but my brain sure does like to play tricks on me. I thought for sure that with all of my thought work and training that this would be easy. Ha!  Add on top of a new pregnancy, planning a wedding within two months, some major changes at work, finishing coach training and trying to launch a business, etc. Whew!

Everyone has stress, I’m not complaining, just offering that all of the pictures and posts on social media don’t always paint the most accurate picture of what it’s like to be pregnant and married for the first time. It’s not all rainbows and butterflies.

My brain has offered up thoughts like…

What did I do? I’m not ready for all of this. 

Did I make a mistake? Can we really take this on all at once?

I’m not energetic enough for all of this. I’m surely going to fail myself and everyone else. 

What if I lose my job too and I don’t have enough to cover everything? 

I don’t have enough time or money to do everything I want to do this year. 

My body was already too big and now it’s getting bigger. I have more acne now than ever in my life. I’m disgusting. 

I’m not going to be the perfect mom I’ve always wanted to be. 

I want to have a natural birth but what if I can’t handle it? I will be embarrassed if I have to have drugs or a c-section. 

I can’t tell anyone about any of my problems because it will seem like I’m complaining and not thankful for all of these gifts. People will judge me.

Now, obviously, these are thoughts that can come and go in a second. Sometimes, I have just one of these that I will truly believe and let it ruin my day or be the catalyst for a fight with my husband. Sometimes, my brain lets one of these thoughts out of the vault and I’m seriously shocked that I could think that because I really would never choose to believe it. 

When I do believe one of these thoughts they create certain emotions, i.e. fear, anxiety, sadness, anger, grief. Those emotions are not driving positive actions that would be beneficial to my circumstances. I intellectually know this by looking at myself from the outside, but sometimes I’m not able to see it right away and I get stuck in the spin cycle of negative thoughts. 

This is all okay. Having thoughts and emotions is normal. My brain is just trying to protect me from harm, unknowns, and all the scary stuff “out there”. 

I know that I can allow these thoughts and emotions come up and release them. I don’t need to keep them as my little pet, rethinking the thoughts so much that they become beliefs.

After I thank my brain for trying to protect me, I can say, now, let’s see what we would really like to believe. 

Here’s what I’m offering my brain instead:

I’m exactly the mother I am meant to be. 

Everything happens in the time it needs to. There is no rush to complete any project. 

I am always provided for. 

My husband loves me the way I am in this very moment. 

My body is strong and can handle much more than I think. 

Taking drugs for pain during labor or having a c-section are okay if that’s what I end up needing. Many babies are born in many ways and end up just fine. 

My body will recover in exactly the process it needs to. 

Everyone is rooting for me and I cannot fail anyone.

Failure is growth if you keep going. 

Just keep going. 

A Lesson In The Illusion of Anxiety

“What if” and “should” type of thoughts came in and created a full blown anxiety attack last night…why?

Because as I create more and more amazing things in my life my ancient instincts are trying to protect me from getting hurt so the brain comes up with “what if” and presents some terrible possible outcome.

Or I’m thinking of too many possible positive outcomes and become overwhelmed of having to do so many things and thinking I “should” be better, faster, or more perfect at something.

The seemingly protective worry causes so much suffering. The first step isn’t just stop thinking about it (try telling someone that who is having an anxiety attack) but to let it all come out.

For me, that means a lot of tears. This time, instead of medicating myself with food, alcohol or Netflix, I cried. I talked it out. I let it all flow.

Then the waves passed and I asked myself if this came up from fear of success. If by reaching new levels, peeling back old layers, I’m discovering residue from old hurt. Pretty much! Thanks, Brain!

I then could begin to think rationally. The illusion faded and I could then decide what I would rather think instead of the anxiety causing thoughts.

Everything will be okay.

I can do anything I want, I am worthy of it all.

I am prepared for whatever may come.

I have the tools to overcome all possibilities.

Worrisome thoughts pretend to be productive and important. It’s an illusion that we can control the future by overthinking. We can use these thoughts as lessons and move on, not let them spin us further and further into darker depths.

Happy Tuesday!

The Beginning of the Middle!

Last week I started a life coach certification training that I believe will provide me with the tools I need to personally transform my body, mind, and soul passion journey, to create the entrepreneurial business of my dreams, AND to teach others how to do the same.
I’m incredibly excited!!
The last year and a half I’ve studied and worked hard on my self in the Self-Coaching Scholars program, with The Life Coach School, and it has completely changed my life. In the Fall of 2016, I knew that in order to become the life coach, the wife and mother, the physically fit and emotionally strong Emily that was born to be, I had to open up my brain, examine my thoughts and decide exactly what I want to think and believe instead, then follow through with the massive action required. I learned so many tools that helped me coach myself and I cannot imagine my life had I not learned them. Life before was grey and getting darker. Now, there is so much light and love that even in the darker moments of life, I’m able to shift back within minutes, hours or the day and not turn that into a month-long binge on food, alcohol, shopping, gossip, and ultimately depression.
I get to create this life whether I’m conscious of it or not so why not be 100% conscious and create something amazing? What am I believing about this? What have I been taught that I actually don’t need to believe anymore? Question everything. Everything!
I’m practicing new thoughts that will produce emotions that fuel the actions that will produce the results I’ve been dreaming of my whole life. 
One of those thoughts is: “For the next six months I am learning the best tools for integrative life coaching, and entrepreneurship, that will make me the best coach I can be.”
Stay tuned for updates on what I’m learning as I plan to share everything I can along the way, on this blog and social media. Whether that’s just personal revelations or actual tools you and other people can use to better all of our lives.
I am SO excited to be sharing this new journey with you. Please comment or send me a private message if you have any questions or need help. I will be practice coaching for free over the next three months.
Love and light, my friends!!
Did you quit your new job??
Nope! I still work in People Operations at JASK and LOVE IT. I get to do this coach training in the evenings, outside of work, which is super awesome.
What is “integrative life coaching”?
As a Licensed Massage Therapist, Reiki practitioner, and believer in the connection between mind, body, and soul, it only makes sense that I would not only coach people with their minds but also connect what’s coming up in their body and energy to what they’re thinking and feeling.
I will use all of my knowledge and tools I’ve learned over the past decade of studying self-help, massage therapy, energy work, the meta-physical, and the Spirit, to help every person who is attracted to this work.
The practical applications of this work will vary from client to client including, massage therapy and reiki sessions, workshops, retreats, phone and video calls, worksheets, journal pages, diet, exercise, videos, and maybe even a podcast. 😉
What does coaching look like?
A life coach holds up a “mirror” to show you your own thoughts and guides you to find the answers to the problems on your own. As a teacher, I can teach tools and concepts, but coaching is personal to the client. I hold non-judgmental space for clients which is where we can dig up all the thoughts that have created the results we don’t want so that we can choose whether we want to keep thinking them or not. It’s always a choice.
What coach training did you enroll in?
Integrative Life Coach Training with Kim Guillory, a Certified Life Coach through the Life Coach School. Kim is awesome and is ON POINT with what she is doing and I totally believe in her training. It’s exactly what I’ve been hoping for this year.
What is Self-Coaching Scholars?
An amazing program for folks who are ready and willing to invest time, money, and energy on themselves!

Today, I am 30 years old.

Today, I am 30 years old.

I feel like I’ve been waiting to be 30 my whole life. I know it sounds weird but for the longest time I thought that life happens in your thirties….just like in the movies. All the cool women I wanted to be like seemed so much older and wiser but still young looking and beautiful. Today, I reflect back on the last decade of my twenties and realize how little good waiting for today really did for me. I try hard not to regret anything in life and look at everything as a learning experience rather than a failure. Still, it’s hard not to regret some of the things we’ve done…especially in our twenties. We suddenly have adult freedom without any of the adult wisdom we think we should have. A combination for potential disaster…or learning experiences, however you want to look at them.

I have had many learning experiences in the past ten years that have certainly made me wiser, yet, I suppose with this wisdom comes the knowing that I’m not that wise at all and still have so much to learn.

When I turned 29 last year, I looked ahead at 30 glaring at me and decided that I didn’t want to enter this new decade with any of the “problems” I had in my twenties. So I worked very hard on my self-coaching and have solved most of those problems with simply choosing new mindsets, new ways of thinking about my past, present, and future. Lo and behold, this is the secret to happiness and wellbeing. Do not get me wrong when I say this, as I don’t want to come across as having figured everything in life out, cuz I don’t! I still have thought errors that will keep me spinning in anxiety and fear for no good reason…on a regular basis. However, I now know that this suffering is all a choice and in my control. These thoughts are optional and when I set my mind to coaching myself through these issues, I come out of the fog so much more quickly and most of the time without self-sabotaging. Most of the time.

In this past year I’ve created so much abundance and love in my life. I’ve manifested things, opportunities, and people to me I couldn’t have imagined I had the power to do when I was just a little girl watching those women in movies and TV. I finally feel like my own real, vulnerable life is so much better than those stories. My own story is what matters most to me.

I’ve learned to let go of questioning why things are the way they are and simply focus on contributing more and loving more.

The questions I ask myself now are:

How will I create more joy in this life?

How will my future self be proud of me and the work I’m doing today?

How can I Love more?

What would Love do?

How can I move toward Love every day?

So, I’ve come to look at this new decade ahead right in the eye, with solid feet on the ground, a wildly passionate heart, and a clear mind full of creativity, ready for more!

Onward, upward, and loveward.

Future Focus

I had a dream last night that my body was the shape that I’m working towards and it was amazing. I woke up with this feeling of such peace yet nervous excitement I could hardly stand it. I just stayed in bed allowing the feelings to wash over me.

Then I realized I had to get up and go to work. Happy Hump Day! 🙂

So, I’ve been thinking about it all morning. This idea of feeling how you want to feel in the future right now. How that it is truly the magic recipe for creating the life of your dreams. I’m experiencing some amazing things happening in my life because not so long ago I was thinking ahead to right now and how I wanted to feel.

This is how the world works, apparently.

You visualize, think thoughts and feel feelings your future self would be thinking and feeling, and then allow the how to show up, taking each next appropriate action toward that future.

Can it be that easy?

Well, yes. Try it. What have you got to lose?

Has there been a time in your life where you can see how this process worked for you? For others?

I would love to know! Comment below and share your manifesting stories!